Social anxiety disorder (SAD) is one of the most common disorders in the United States, with approximately 15 million men and women experiencing it each year. Racing thoughts, sweaty palms, and an intense feeling of fear can ensue, sparking a downward spiral for those in (or about to be in) situations that make them uncomfortable. This debilitating fear can certainly spark problems in the dating world, as social anxiety creeps in and takes over your confidence and ability to communicate the way you’d probably like to. A quick fix for many is to drink, but how much of an impression can be made if a person is intoxicated or, at the very least, not able to think clearly? Not to mention, this form of self-medication can lead to substance dependency, which only further creates problems.
“Will they show up?”
“Am I going to get stood up?”
“What if they don’t like me?”
“What if I make a fool of myself?”
All of these thoughts scream “anxiety”, and, while they’re completely normal, they could be wreaking havoc on your love life if they’re affecting your ability to date. If you find yourself cancelling dates, only wanting to communicate online, leaving dates early, or avoiding opening yourself up to others, your anxiety could very well be getting the best of you. What can be done about this?
Previous research has shown that cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and mindfulness are exceptional approaches to treating various anxiety disorders, which means that you could have tools to get back on track before you know it. In fact, a 2015 study published in the journal Personality and Individual Differences found that women are more attracted to dispositional mindfulness, even over physical appearance! Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) is another effective form of therapy, which can help you to harness the energy of living a full life with opportunities.
Dating may be nerve wracking, but it should not come at the expense of your anxiety. Take the pledge to place your mental health as top priority, and begin your journey to balance and restoration today.
Avalon Integrative Wellness offers an innovative approach to wellness and the exciting brand shift of our program emphasizes the importance of integrative wellness through experiential frameworks. Clients at Avalon Integrative Wellness learn, act, experience, grow, heal, and evolve, concurrently. If you’re ready to optimize your health and well-being, call us today at 888-266-9048.