4 Ways You Can Incorporate Mindfulness Into Your Relationship, Starting Today

Divorce is sometimes an inevitable, unfortunate outcome of a relationship, depending on the circumstance. However, many divorces could be avoided if each partner in the relationship took more time to truly understand one another; to work together as a team through trials and tribulations, to follow through with promises, and much more. As humans, we’re bound to make mistakes – relationships aren’t about being perfect, but they thrive the most when we’re mindful. Mindfulness is a practice that doesn’t require any money or materials, only willingness and a sincere dedication to learn.

First, what is mindfulness? Mindfulness is typically defined as being 1) focused on the present moment and one’s thoughts, emotions, and body sensations, and 2) approaching these experiences with an accepting, non-judgmental attitude. A 2017 review published in the journal Personality and Social Psychology Review emphasized that when mindfulness is cultivated in intimate relationships, partners are able to maintain awareness of how their actions effect their relationship. For example, if a partner comes home angry, they may be more mindfully aware of how their stress and anger could protrude out and effect their partner rather than immediately reacting with tension and aggression towards their significant other. In other words, mindfulness ensures that we are actively engaged in our human experiences.

The opposite of mindfulness is mindlessness, and this can occur, too. Autopilot is a term often used to describe when our actions occur without thinking – we merely react. Driving without paying attention to what’s around us is a big one, but we may also act on autopilot with our partner, too. Saying things we don’t mean, or saying hurtful things, often occurs out of mindlessness – because we aren’t recognizing the impact that our words and actions can have on the ones we love and don’t want to lose. If you and your significant other are ready to incorporate mindfulness into your lives, begin by trying these 5 different practices:

  • Practice pausing and choosing your words more wisely when speaking with each other. Choose words that are more loving and compassionate rather than reactive.
  • Engage in deep listening with your significant other. Ask them questions, repeat what they’ve said back in a different way to show them you truly understand.
  • Meditate with loving-kindness practices by wishing your loved one the absolute best in everything they do. Imagine them as a child growing up into an adult, and imagine hugging them – telling them how proud you are of them and how much you love them.
  • For about 5-10 minutes each day, write down positive and loving affirmations. This will jumpstart your subconscious into greater compassion.

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